(RE)IGNITE
For couples who have built a life together, but have drifted apart within it…
the most alive, ecstatic, and erotic version of your relationship awaits...
You love each other.
But the spark has dimmed.
And happily ever after is starting to look more like roommates…
You rarely have sex - and when you do, it’s just alright.
You keep having the same arguments, and it feels like something has to change
Between parenting, work, and day-to-day responsibilities, all you have left to give each other are crumbs.
Sex feels loaded. Maybe one of you wants more and the other feels pressure. Neither of you feels free.
You want to feel excited about each other again, you just don't know how to get there.
And maybe, as a result, you’re starting to doubt whether you are even compatible.
We’ve been sold a lie about relationships.
We’ve been exposed to the glorification of:
butterflies,
the swoon,
effortlessness,
perfect compatibility,
passionate can’t-keep-my-hands-off-of-you sexual chemistry…
(I blame Hollywood, and definitely Disney!)
What we never see is what happens after happily ever after…
But that doesn’t mean you have to settle for meh.
Here’s what I know to be true:
✧ With safety, relationships can be the ground for deep healing and personal growth.
✧ You can be crazy about each other even after decades of partnership (and it can keep getting better and better)
✧ Our intimate relationships have the power to trigger us the most - and to transform us.
✧ Relationships are co-created in real time - which means you can choose to change, reorient, and create something new.
But it does take work. Intentionality. And a willingness to prioritize your “us”.
The (RE)IGNITE Framework
Though no journey is ever linear, and no two couples arrive at the same place, this is the territory we’ll explore together:
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We start by taking an honest inventory of where the relationship is today:
…the dynamics at play
…the agreements (spoken and unspoken)
…the patterns that have become the new normal
And how all of it impacts the relationship and the people in it
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Next, we build a shared picture of what you actually want.
What would it look like for both of you to get your needs met?
What does the most ecstatic version of your relationship feel like?
What would it look like, feel like, to truly thrive in your partnership?
We shift towards what you're both choosing together.
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This is individual and relational excavation work that happens together.
Each of you explores your own history, beliefs, and old wounds:
Where did you learn what love should look like?
What did you absorb about conflict, about touch, about being truly seen?
What did you absorb from your family, culture, media, etc, about sex?
Together, you learn to explore and share what surfaces.
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I am a big believer that relational work, especially when it comes to sex, requires that each individual rebuilds their individual relationship with pleasure, desire, and aliveness - separate from the couple dynamic.
What you bring to each other can only be as rich as what you've first found in yourself.
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The real gold of this journey is in the somatic, relational practices that you explore as a couple in our sessions or during your own date nights.
You’ll be guided through a number of communication and connection exercises that are designed to renew and deepen physical, emotional, and erotic intimacy.
(RE)IGNITE includes:
8 Two-on-One Sessions
The scaffolding that holds our journey together - where the real work happens, side by side.
Between-Session Homeplay
Think homework… but sexier! This is where transformation takes root - through practices and date nights you bring into your everyday life between our calls.
4 individual sessions
Two 1:1 sessions each with Davina, dedicated to your own personal exploration. This is where you do your own claiming, so you have more to bring to the partnership.
Access to Recorded Practices
Includes access to Davina’s (ever-growing) library of female pleasure practices to explore at your own pace.
On-Going Support
A private WhatsApp line to Davina for the duration of our work together.
Hi, I’m Davina!
I help couples and individuals thrive in their relationships with themselves and each other.
I am a VITA™-certified Sex, Love & Relationships Coach with a Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology.
But before that, I was a highly sought-after wedding photographer. For over a decade, I witnessed couples all over the world promise to be together ‘til death do them part.
Some couples stayed together, some didn't, but what I always wanted to know was: who actually thrived? Not just survived, but thrived - behind closed doors, in the day-to-day, in those seasons of life that nobody photographs.
Needless to say, that question is how I got here.
Perhaps my most relevant credential, though, is my almost two-decade partnership with my husband / baby-daddy Daniel.
We’ve been through rupture, repair, and loss and have chosen each other again and again through different seasons, as old versions of us died and new ones were born. I know long-term partnership, because I live it every day.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Reignite is for couples who are both willing to show up… not perfectly, but genuinely. You don't need to be in crisis, and you don't need to have it all together. What matters is that you both want more for your relationship and you're ready to do something about it.
The best way to know is to fill out the application form and we can see if it’s a good fit on the discovery call.
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I do offer 3 and 6 session packages for couples who have a specific issue they are working through or who don’t feel like they need the full (re)ignite experience.
We can discuss this one your discovery call.
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VITA™ is a coaching methodology created by Layla Martin. It integrates embodiment practices, neurobiology, and the wisdom of Tantra and Taoism.
It is a 600-hour professional certification in Sex, Love, and Relationships coaching that involves first doing our own work, before coaching peers and eventually individuals and couples outside the program. By the time we graduate, we've lived the work and not just learned it.
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Reignite is a coaching container, not therapy. If one or both of you are carrying unresolved trauma that needs clinical support, I'll be honest with you about that on our discovery call and I may refer you to a therapist first or alongside our work together.
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There are a total of 8 2:1 calls and 4 1:1 calls included. I recommend that couples commit to weekly calls with some weeks off throughout. Most couples take about 6 months to complete it.
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Most couples finish feeling more connected, more equipped, and more fluent in each other — with real tools and a new way of communicating. For many, that's enough to move forward on their own. Others find they want continued support and I offer on-going coaching in these cases.
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(RE)IGNITE is $2900 CAD (roughly 2000$ USD depending on the exchange rate of the day)
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Yes. You can split the investment into 3 monthly payments of $970 CAD. Just mention it on your discovery call and we'll get it set up.